- Developing A Safety Plan
- Orders of Protection
- Relationship Violence
- Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
What are your options if you think you are a victim of abuse?
Ask for help
Develop a safety plan
Get an order of protection
Developing A Safety Plan
- Place important papers in a safe and accessible location. Important papers include birth certificates, social security cards, medical and school immunization records, car titles, rent statement, etc.
- Make copies of all essential keys — house, car, safety deposit — and keep them with papers.
- Prepare an emergency bag that includes clothes, medicine, toys and whatever you and your children need to be comfortable
- Secure a safe place to go.
Domestic Violence Safety Plans in English and Spanish are available on the City of Phoenix website.
Orders of Protection
An Order of Protection can be filed when an act or threat of violence has occurred. Call your local law enforcement agency if you need protection.
Keep a copy of your Order of Protection with you at all times. If your child is covered in the Order, be sure to leave a copy with the child’s school, babysitter and your lawyer.
Where To Go:
Flagstaff City Court: (928) 774-1401
Flagstaff Precinct Justice Court: (928) 774-6806
Page Justice Court: (928) 645-8871
Tuba City Family Court: (928) 283-3157
Coconino County Superior Court: (928) 779-6535
Remember, relationship violence is a crime. You can be safe. Northland Family can help.
Relationship Violence
What is Relationship Violence?
A PATTERN of assaultive and coercive behavior that adults and adolescents use against another person, including physical, emotional and sexual abuse as, well as economic coercion.
Victims of relationship violence may experience:
- Feelings of helplessness, powerlessness, guilt and fear
- Emotional problems such a depression, suicidal thoughts, and addictive behaviors
- Feelings of self-doubt and lack of confidence regarding living independently from an abusive partner
- Serious physical injury
Helping a friend of yours in a situation that you think may be abusive:
- Let him or her know that it is okay to ask for help. Help is available (call NFHC at 928-527-1900).
- Tell him or her that what has happened is not his or her fault.
- Inform your friend of the resources available including yourself.
- Support your friend in her or his decisions. Realize you cannot make your friend leave the abusive situation.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Is your relationship unhealthy or healthy? Ask yourself the following:
1. Does your partner lose his/her temper easily?
2. Are you sometimes afraid of your partner?
3. Has your partner ever physically hurt you?
4. Does your partner abuse alcohol or other drugs?
5. Does your partner put you down, humiliate or embarrass you?
6. Do you ever feel sad, angry or embarrassed when you’re with your partner?
7. Has your partner ever pressured you to do anything sexually?
Did you answer YES to any of these questions?
If so, these are warning signs of an unhealthy and potentially dangerous relationship.
Signs of a Healthy Relationship:
In a healthy relationship both partners…
Feel Good: Their self-esteem remains intact. They talk to each other without feeling afraid or intimidated.
Learn about Yourself: Examine who you are, who you want to be, and how others see you. Build trust, respect and mutual affection.
Learn new ways to Communicate:Communicate openly and honestly. Speak to each other with respect and integrity.
